BUT...There are these things that we married women all have...but usually do not talk about. Of course it is after that giddy stage when you both are on your best behavior...it is like you wake up one day and see what you are truly working with. I think women need to be prepared. Love changes. I tell my family that they did a huge disservice to the younger gals in my family. NO ONE EVER TOLD ME THAT A MAN WOULD GET ON MY NERVES...ALOT. In fact, they all acted like things were perfect on the surface. So, as a grown up I felt like a failure lots of times...because things seemed so storybook for everyone else. If you look around most people are trying to make it appear that life is just a bundle of mushiness but secretly suffering from what I call VIDEO MOMENTS.
In talking with friends and co-workers over the years...it is always a common thread. Thankfully, we do not ACT on these feelings because that would be just SINFUL. I will just go ahead and ask God for forgiveness because I truly know revenge is a horrible thing. But in the moments when you feel like you want to "hurt somebody" these moments give us a sense of peace about who really isn't in control after all...that would be our husbands. haha
I have shared with my closest friends that it is okay that we only think horrid things to do when we have "had enough". Once at the gas station...I envisioned getting in the drivers seat and flooring it on two wheels out of there...leaving David covered in my dust just so I wouldn't have to hear about how right he was anymore. I could have thrown gravel all over him and honked the horn and waved as I sped away laughing crazily. I didn't act on these thoughts. I knew what a great wife I was that I didn't do what I could have done. heehee
When my baby sister got engaged, I sat down with her and told her the real deal. It is kinda like when you get pregnant. NO ONE shares the reality of it all. I told her that she needed to know that a man will get on her every last nerve. It is okay. This is the thing they don't tell you about. When it happened I wanted her to feel that she was completely normal and her marriage wasn't failing. I discussed that I love being married to David and the whole video moments thing. I share with her all the time. I want her to know we all go through stuff. (and I'm not talking the latest romance novel stuff either) Marriage is work. Raising a child with someone is even more difficult.
IF you think about it...we all experience video moments. So, yes friends, as you drive along with your husbands and you picture throwing them over the bridge into the Tennessee River and people reading in the paper about their discovery...you are completely sane. Marriage is certainly trying at times. Being married to me is no glass of pink lemonade on a hot summer day kind of refreshing all the time. I am far from perfect. I just don't get why talking about this is so hush-hush. Its not like I am going to be on the TV show Snapped. It is completely harmless because once you have the thoughts you put them out of your mind as quickly as they come to you. It makes me feel better when I hear that others think the unimaginable at times even about the person we vowed to spend the rest of our life with.
Maybe the generation of women ahead of me choose not to share about these things. I jokingly talk about times of trials in my life. But, me being the strong, independent woman that I am...I want all of you to know that you are not alone. If you have not yet experienced a video moment...brace yourself...YOU WILL. When that moment comes you can always go for a ride with me.
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